Is your boss giving you more than just that friendly tap on the shoulder for a job well done? Are you dreading to go to work because of a colleague’s constant attempt to make a pass at you? It’s time you spoke up about it. For many women today, this is how it plays out. The work atmosphere is getting to be a hotbed of hostility — everything from unwanted furtive glances to inappropriate ‘touching’ and outright asking for sexual favours in lieu of work. The ongoing controversy — of an anonymous post by a former employee of The Viral Fever (TVF) accusing its CEO and founder Arunabh Kumar of allegedly molesting her — has brought the issue to the fore. While no formal complaint has been registered as yet, the issue has made people sit up and take notice. Cases of sexual harassment at the workplace have one thing in common — the absolute silence that encompasses women who suffer it. While staying quiet may seem like the only way out, experts urge women to wake up and speak out as this can save other individuals. There can be different kinds of sexual harassment. Explains psychologist Malini Krishnan, “It could be anything, even something as basic as a persistent glance. Harassment could begin in the garb of friendship — starting with a simple statement from a colleague saying ‘lets hang out’. Then, when your guard is down and you trust the person, it crops up. The person might then say inappropriate things or touch you without your permission.” So how does one catch it at the onset? “First of all, be very aware of what you are feeling during any interaction. Then, act as per that feeling. If you are unsure of X, just walk away. Or just say no politely. The sooner we are assertive and refuse, the better we are able to protect ourselves. So, keep a watch on your inner voice and stay aware of what you are instinctively feeling,” she advises.There are many reasons to this. Many women won’t speak out because it could affect job opportunities for them. Affirms clinical psychologist Anisha Jain, “Women who are victims of such harassment are scared that it will affect their job chances. They dread feeling awkward when they have to return to their workplace. Often, colleagues can also make it difficult for them and be insensitive even without intending to. They may also not want to speak up as they are ashamed of what has happened. They don’t want others to know ‘yeh mere saath hua hai’. The next thing on their minds is the fear of being judged. The women may feel, ‘will society think that I did something to encourage or provoke it?’ So there is a huge fear of being misunderstood, sadly even by colleagues. Also, when victims talk about what they have gone through, they have to relive the whole experience. When one is afraid of something, he or she wants to just run away from it as is human nature.” However, she adds that all said, it’s time women speak up. “I had a couple of cases where the women came forward to reveal they were sexually harassed at work. They had complained to the sexual harassment cell and action was taken. Thus, what is imperative is for corporates to take action on behalf of the complainant. Remember, such a person has taken the courageous step to come forward, but they need to follow up for prompt action.” Underlining the importance of this, Malini says, “I have come across a few cases of young women who were sexually abused by family members. Even after they spoke up, the matter was kept under wraps and considered to be ‘all in the family.’ No action was taken against the perpetrator. So, why just talk about the workplace? This happens anywhere and it’s very unfortunate when people don’t do anything about it.”
Social media is a sounding board, but it’s not enough
Today, many women have spoken out on social media like Facebook and Twitter, recounting their own experiences of sexual harassment. In a sense, it has given them a sounding board and a space to find solace. Anuradha Kharat, who works with an organisation that handles crises calls for sexual harassment at the workplace in Mumbai, says calls for help are on the rise in the city. “Victims call in and share what has happened with them. Very often, they are depressed. They usually write about it on social media. But when they call us, they ask us what else they can do. We tell them to report the matter to the Vishakha Committee and confide in a family member or close friend about it. These two steps are very important for them.”